Pendulum Work

I have a lot of folks who want to work more closely with their angels and guides, or personal helpers. First, as always, you must acknowledge them. Welcome your personal helpers with words, and let them know what you want them to do, or how you want them to be in your life. Then, be prepared to listen to them.

One way to establish communication and know is to ask a yes/no question and then use a pendulum to divulge the answer. Below is a how to guide for pendulum work.

1. Choosing a Pendulum:

You can either purchase a pendulum or make one yourself. It can be anything with a weighted object attached to a string or chain.
Choose a pendulum that feels comfortable and balanced in your hand. It can be made of various materials like metal, crystal, or wood.

2. Understanding the Basics:

Hold the pendulum between your thumb and index finger, allowing it to hang freely without touching anything.
Ask the pendulum which way means yes and wait for the pendulum to move on its own. Be patient, and if the pendulum doesn’t move, it may not be in alignment with you in which case you can select another.
Ask the pendulum to show you the “no” direction.
Ask the pendulum to show you the “no answer,” which can indicate that you need to reword the question, or that there is not a best answer.

3. Establishing a Connection:

When you begin working with a pendulum, be in a comfortable and quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
Take a few deep breaths to relax your mind and body.
Call on your angels and guides to hear you and answer your question.

4. Asking Questions:

Ask clear, specific questions that can be answered with a “yes” or “no” or “maybe”.
Remain relaxed and open-minded, allowing the pendulum to move naturally. Consider closing your eyes so you don’t influence the answer.

5. Interpreting the Responses:

Interpret the pendulum’s movement based on your pre-established signals for “yes,” “no,” or “maybe.”
Trust your intuition and the connection you’ve established with your guides through your pendulum.

6. Practice and Patience:

Like any skill, working with a pendulum requires practice and patience.
Keep a journal to record your questions, the pendulum’s responses, and any insights or feelings you experience during the process.
Over time, you’ll become more attuned to the subtle movements and nuances of your pendulum.

Sometimes people wear their pendulum on a long chain around their neck so that it is always available. I take my pendulum to the grocery store and will sometimes use it to decide between different products. Play with your pendulum, always remembering to call on your guides and trusting that they are communicating with you through the pendulum. And have fun!

Tarot Reading for Loving Yourself

This reading addresses what steps to take to love yourself more:

What must I release to love myself?

Determination (Chariot): Slow down and release control because they are not getting you any closer to loving yourself. You have been determined, until now, to focus on what you believe is unloving about yourself.

How do I release it?

Quester (Fool): Be willing to take a risk and open the portals to new journeys and relationships. Your guides are with you and will protect you as long as you listen for their advice.

What do I call in to replace what I released?

Moon: Know that you have illusions about yourself that do not serve your highest good. Believe in the power of the Moon to discover who you are and to know that you are worthy of love.

What do I need to do to trust the cards?

Temperance: Acknowledge, honor and balance all aspects of who you are. You have many roles and responsibilities in your life, and it’s time that you acknowledge all of the good and wonderful parts of yourself.

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February is often thought to be a time for romance because of Valentine’s Day. I’ve been pleased that in the last several years many single people have gotten together to celebrate being single, which can be the most empowering state to be in.

Whether you are in a relationship or not, take a day to love yourself and appreciate who you are. If you are not feeling confident about yourself, try the exercises below because you are worthy of loving yourself first and foremost.

First of all, understand that you do not have to think you are perfect. None of us is perfect. Unfortunately, many times people tend to absorb and remember hurtful or thoughtless things that people have said about them—even those things from childhood that are in no way relevant now. People often remember the hurt and pain, often when they don’t even remember the words. The message they carry is, “You are not enough.”

Unfortunately, people frequently don’t remember, or hear, the kind things that people say about them. Or they sluff the comment off, rather than hold onto it and embrace it. I don’t know each of you who is reading this exercise, but I do know that every one of you is an individual who has some wonderful traits that are valued by others in your life. Acknowledge the positive things people say about you.

Pay attention to what you say when someone compliments you. For example, when someone thanks you for something you’ve done, do you ignore the comment or say, “it was nothing”? Every time you ignore or downplay a compliment you disempower yourself.

Exercise: For 1 month, or 1 week, or 1 day listen to when people thank you, or compliment you. Or compliment you on a job well done. Write down the positive comments to reinforce them. Those are words of praise that make up a large part of who you are.

The person with the potential to know you better than anyone else is yourself. Look at the list of compliments you’ve recorded, and then add other attributes that you know are your strengths. Embrace what is good and wonderful about who you are.

When you love yourself, in spite of your faults, you will find more love in your life. Loving yourself is being an empowered self.

February Empowerment Calendar

I know from my personal experience how important it is to come from a place of empowerment. Like many of you, I didn’t grow up with a sense of empowerment. Over the years, I’ve learned that I have attributes many people appreciate, and as I’ve acknowledged and embraced those attributes I’ve become more satisfied with life, and I’ve attracted wonderful friends and experiences. I know how important empowerment is.

Years ago when I became an Empowerment Coach, I was attacked on social media by a person who said I couldn’t empower anyone, and she was right. No one can empower you. All any coach can do is to provide tools for the person to build the skills to help her meet her goals. I write this newsletter as your coach. I hope some of it works for you.

This month I created a one-month Empowerment Calendar for February. You can download it here. Let me know what you think about it. Almost every day this past January I’ve posted empowerment suggestions on Facebook; thank you for your comments. In March I’ll continue with messages on Facebook a few times a week.

February Empowerment Calendar

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