Setting Intentions

Setting your intention is different than telling yourself what you “should” be doing or want to do. When you set your intention you state your highest desire and activate your goals. Setting your intention is active, not passive.

When you state your intention you put your desires out into the universe so that the various energies can line up to help your intentions come true. Your intentions are best be manifested when they are in alignment with your values.

Your intention is a call to attract to yourself what you desire. It can be in the physical plane (a friend just manifested a home), or an internal objective (another client just achieved forgiveness towards a late partner).

Begin by being thankful for the things you already have in your life before setting your new intention. Create whatever kind of ritual that will be meaningful to you. My way of setting intention is to begin by calling on my angels and guides, but that may not work for you.

Be pretty specific about what you want. Maybe you want to manifest a new job. Rather than name the title and company you want to work for, perhaps calling in the perfect job for you that pays you well and is work you enjoy with compatible co-workers in a convenient location.

Re-state your intention (it can be a shortened version) in the days and weeks that follow. Notice what you are doing to support your intention. For example, you might write a note to remind yourself of the intention and place copies of your intention where you will be reminded of what you are calling into your life.

Give the universe time to create the circumstances for the intention to come true.

Ritual For Remembrance

This is a ritual best done in nature. You can do it individually, or in a group with each person celebrating those who have passed onto the next world.

Bring something symbolic of the person(s) you are remembering.

Write the name of the remembered person on a rock as you speak a favorite memory.

Review the changes in your life since the loss and acknowledge that you have a future.

Take a rock, branch or flower as a reminder of the ritual when you leave.

Allow yourself to remember, to grieve and to find comfort in the ritual.

From October, Samhain Newsletter 2019

Mirror Messages to Yourself

We manifest what we pay attention to in our lives. Become aware of where you are putting your mental and emotional energy. Read below about how the mirror will help you be a reflection of who you want to become.

I’ve talked before about how impactful the messages are that we repeat to ourselves. I’ve suggested that you listen with awareness of what message you are sending with your “self-speak”. How often do you say something like, “I’m so dumb,” or “I wish I weren’t so [put your word of inadequacy here].”? This kind of self-speak keeps you in an old paradigm that doesn’t serve you.

Paying attention to what you consider your faults supports those faults rather than the person who has the traits you admire. The universe needs to hear what you appreciate about yourself, what you want to become, or what you want to draw into your life.

Here’s an example of changing your message. I found myself forgetting a name or a word and joking that I was experiencing a senior moment. Once I realized that I was reinforcing forgetfulness, I changed my self-speak. I said to myself, “Remember the word.” As soon as I remembered the word I would pat myself on the back and praise my memory. In a short period of time the pat on the back was enough to reinforce to the universe that I wanted to remember and not have senior moments. My instances of forgetfulness reduced and I felt more confident of my memory.

The mirror is a reflection of who we are and can be useful in changing the perception of self. A technique that I often use when I want to make change in my life is to place a note on a mirror that I will see every day. The change may be an attitude about my relation to myself, a reminder of what I am, or what I want to become. Or it may be a thought about what I want to create in the world.

Try this exercise for at least a month.

1. Listen to your self-speak. Make a list about what is empowering about yourself and what is negative?

2. Take the negative messages, such as, “I just did a dumb thing,” and change it to something like, “That was a mistake I can do differently next time .”

3. Read the positive message, pay attention to the people, circumstances and opportunities that present themselves that reinforce the message.

4. Know that you deserve to be loved and honored!

5. Drop me a note honoring your success or difficulties with this experiment.


Ritual for Lubercalia (Valentines) for Everyone

Valentine day was hijacked by the early church from an established pagan festival called Lubercalia. The festival was to honor Lupa, said to be a she-wolf who helped nurse orphaned infants to save them from starvation. In addition to celebrating fertility the rituals were to clear the community of evil spirits. The Church decided the rituals were too violent and sexually-charged and replaced it with a celebration of a martyred romantic priest.

On this Lubercalia do this ritual to make fertile what you want to grow in your life. It could be your joy, your relationships, your business, or your health. Whatever it is, ritual can help you become more mindful of what you want to call into your life.

Write down your intention on a piece of paper using the following format:

“I plant this seed of _______________ which I intend to help nourish and grow into _______________. I ask the Divine to help guide me to making the necessary steps and to ensure that all is carried out with my highest good in mind.”

Light a candle and place it next to a small bowl of clean water. Fold the piece of paper and hold it close to your heart while you meditate or repeat your intention.

When you feel your intention has been infused in the paper, drop it into the water.

Go outside and plant the paper into the ground, cover with soil and pour the water over the top.

Let go of all your worries about how your seed will grow and give a moment of appreciation and thanks to the Universe.

New Year Ritual

According to Carl Jung, symbols are the language of the soul as it connects to the intuitive rather than the rational mind.

The purpose of empowerment rituals is to connect with what is in our highest and best good. As we perform rituals to manifest something, such as a job, a romance, or a new home, we are calling on our super conscious to bring the cosmic energy into alignment to create our desire.

I’ve been told that the first twelve days of a new year are the most important to pay attention to for what we want to manifest in the new year. Pay attention to how you answer the questions below, revisit and update them during the twelve days. Clean out your drawers and closets, getting rid of the old.

What brought you joy in the last year?

What lessons did you learn in the last year?

Where did you experience grief during the last year?

What do you want to release from the old year?

Who do you want to help this year?

How do you want to play in the new year?

Where do you want to experience growth in the new year?

What do you want to manifest in the new year?

How will you affirm you are worthy of what you want to manifest?

Burn what you want to release and keep your hopes for the future.

Happy New Year!

Ritual Healing to Reclaim Your Power from Abuse

Women and men who have been sexually abused need to discover how to feel safe again, often years after the event. If you experienced that mistreatment it left long lasting effects on your physical and spiritual body, even if there is no long lasting physical evidence.  Sexual abuse has the potential to unbalance all of the chakras, and until you are able to heal those chakras you’ll find unwanted disruptions in your relationships and sense of self. Reclaiming your power is essential to healing.

Reclaiming your power is about you, not the perpetrator. When you have your power you accept yourself as who you are, flaws and all. You feel a sense of connection to the world, to spirit (however you define spirit) and you have healthy relationships with others.

In the ritual below you will be working with the seven energy centers in everyone’s body that are called chakras. When these centers are blocked or damaged, the energy is disrupted and the disruption can cause physical, emotional and spiritual distress.

Here is a reclaiming ritual to open and balance that you can do on your own or with a trusted group of people. If you prefer, an energy worker such as a Reiki healer or Shaman, can be a great assistant to reconnect, open and realign your chakras before or after the ritual.

Prepare a space with items that represent the elements of water (bowl with water and an essence such as lavender or frankincense),  air (feather), earth (crystal or stone), and fire (candle). Bless the elements. Cleanse the space with sage or salt water and declare it sacred.

Start with the Seventh Chakra which is above the crown of the head. This chakra is associated with spirit and when injured can mean you have difficulty connecting to spirit. Begin by claiming a reconnection with your angels and guides (or however you refer to spirit). This is your personal spiritual connection, not an institutional connection.  Say, for example, “I call on the spirit of One, on my Angels and Guides to be with me on this healing journey.” Place a hand just above your head and move it gently and slowly up and down. Feel the pulsing energy of the crown chakra. If you can’t feel the energy continue the exercise and trust the connection is there.

Move to the sixth chakra, the third eye, which is behind the forehead. It relates to your intuition which can be hard to trust after abuse. Abused people often constantly distrust their intuition because it didn’t keep them safe from harm. Touch a feather to your third eye and ask for a vision of what your guides want to tell you. Still your mind and let the images come until a positive image that might represent healing or safety or joy comes to you. Hold to that image. Breathe into that image and then relax.

Next, the fifth chakra, at your throat, relates to your ability to communicate and speak your truth. Use the fire of passion to speak your truth. Name the abuse and/or the abuser. Write the name of the abuser and any description about the event or events. Burn the name and abuse as you say something like, “I [your name] call back my power. I reclaim my body, mind, emotions and soul. [abuser name] has no power over me. My body is healed, my mind is soothed, my emotions are strong and healthy, my spirit is true.”  It is very powerful to tone or sing at this point.

The fourth chakra is the heart chakra and is charged by our relationships to others and ultimately to ourselves. Dab the water with essential oil on your heart chakra. Mediitate on the people who love you. Mediitate on the relationships you want to call into your life and mediitate on how YOU want to be in that relationship. Call on the power of the Universe to help you create that perfect relationship. For example, “I call on the power of One to bring to me the perfect relationship that makes me feel treasured, joyful and safe.”

Move to the third chakra which resides behind your naval and is the chakra from which your personal power emanates. After being abused a person often loses her sense of place in the world, or becomes so hyper-organized so nothing can ever get near her again. She loses the perspective of boundaries. Think about your relationships and be honest about which ones bring you joy and which ones are stressful. Ask yourself why you have these feelings about them. Are you feeling pressured; does someone barge into your space; do you laugh often with anyone; how do you decide how time will be spent with others? After you’ve thought about these questions, and your own questions, imagine a large square that represents your boundaries. Take each of the elements and draw over your boundaries and say something like, “My emotional (water) boundaries keep me safe, but available. My passions (fire) are mine to decide and to pursue. My thoughts (feather) explore the world.  My physical (crystal or stone) self demands safety and health.

Go to the second chakra where you feel your emotions, or the emotions of others. It is where your sexual feelings reside. For an abused person this chakra may feel ripped and torn. Fear, betrayal, anger, lust, and anxiety can sit in the pit of your gut. Mediitate on weaving the rips in the fabric of your being. Call in your power by saying something like, “I [your name] call on MY power. XX has no power over me. No one has power over who I am. I am [your name] and I embrace her with love. I call on my power to love. I call on my power to be safe, happy and joyful, thoughtful, satisfied and excited in the world. I call on my power to grieve and then release the past. I call on my power to be the most of who I can be in a way that satisfies ME.”

Finally, the first chakra relates to our connection to earth. Sometimes those wounded by abuse have a difficult time deciding if they want to stay on this planet. Stand before the elements, raise your arms to the sky, stamp your feet as you declare, “I claim my power to be me. I claim my power to be healed. I claim my power to love my body and to remove all traces of XX. I am [your name] and I am powerful.” Touch every part of your body, your lips, cheeks, head, throat, breasts, waist, vagina, buttocks with love and kindness. Use your own healing touch to reclaim your body and your power.


If you wish assistance with this exercise, or a healing Reiki session, please contact Judyth at (360) 305-1491.  

Fall Equinox – Time for Harvesting

On September 22-23 we celebrate the Fall Equinox, the day when the sun is equally divided between light and dark. In ancient times it was a day of recognizing that the last harvests would be coming in, and the last celebration of abundance as the animals that could not be fed in the winter would be slaughtered for great feasts.

The air changes with the new frosts, leaves change into colorful flags, schools start, schedules change and life goes on. With all of modern conveniences we often forget to touch the energy of the ancients. We can get any food we desire, any time of the year. We forget the rituals of the seasons.

I suggest you be aware of the lessons and healing opportunities in this Fall season, and in every season.

Take a moment to reflect what you planted in your mind, body and spirit six months ago during the Spring Equinox when we were moving to greater light. How is your harvest? Has your crop of ideas, projects, goals been abundant?

If you didn’t consciously plant seeds think about what has happened in your life in the last 6 months. What do you want to take forward and what do you want to release?

Enjoy your harvest. Feed your mind, body and soul. Evaluate and celebrate your crop. If the crop was not abundant decide if you still feel inclined to pursue those goals for a richer life, however you would define richer.

Acknowledge what you did correctly and what you will change in the future. Set new goals or reaffirm old ones. Use the winter months to feed the soil of your hopes and dreams. Put a cover crop of your dreams to feed it until the spring.

4 Empowerment Steps to Create Possibilities

1. Set intentions – Make a list of the areas in your life that you want to create new and/or expanded possibilities. Be specific without getting bogged down. Your life is integrated between the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. When you want to spend more energy in one area, realize that you may need to shift some energy from another area.

2. Evaluate options – As you review your intentions, evaluate what you will need to accomplish each intention. Do they require an investment of time, money, commitment or space? Decide from among the various approaches that you may take to create your intention. There is almost always more than one action you can take to achieve your intention.

3. Take action – Now that you know what you want to achieve, and the best steps to take for success, really commit yourself to your goals. The purpose of setting your intention is to make your life better and this is your opportunity to claim a more expansive life. GO FOR IT!

4. Pay attention – Keep your list of intentions and actions where you see them and pay attention to how well you are completing your actions and staying with your intention. Pay attention to where you stumble and celebrate your successes.

When you feel stuck, pull a card to see what energy is in your way, and then another card to determine what energy to call upon to get past your challenge.

You can always call on me if you have a question.

A New Year Ritual

Rituals shift our state of mind through structured symbolic acts. Carl Jung said that symbols are the language of the soul as they connect to the intuitive rather than the rational mind. The purpose of empowerment rituals is to connect with what is in our highest and best good. As we perform rituals to manifest a job, romance, or a new home we are calling on our super conscious to bring the cosmic energy into alignment to create our desire.

I’ve been told that the first twelve days of a new year are the most important to pay attention to what we want to manifest for the new year. Pay attention to how you answer the questions below, revisit and update them during the twelve days. Clean out your drawers and closets, getting rid of the old.

What brought you joy in old year?
What lessons did you learn in the old year?
Where did you experience grief during old year?
What do you want to release from the old year?
Who do you want to help this year?
How do you want to play in the new year?
Where do you want to experience growth in new year?
What do you want to manifest in new year?
How will you affirm you are worthy of what you want to manifest?

Burn what you want to release and keep your hopes for the future. Happy New Year!

December’s Global Time of Celebration

The commercial world in the US bombards us with reminders of Christmas, yet in the spirit of love and acceptance it’s a good time of the year to remember that there are many tradtitions that celebrate holidays during this month. Below is a partial list of celebrations.  Whatever your tradition, be tolerant of the beliefs of others. Recognize the humanity and the desire for peace among all people.

December 1 is the date during which some sects of the Islam religion celebrate the birth of Mohammed.

Hanukka is the Jewish celebration of the return of the light and is celebrated December 12 to 20. Candles are lit in a 9 branch menorah which is used only during this holiday. It commemorates the victory of the Jewish Maccabees over the Greco/Syrians in 165 B.C.E. and the miraculous burning of a one day supply of candles for eight days.

Posadas Navidenas occurs on December 16 to 24 and is primarily celebrated by Hispanics to acknowledge the journey that Mary and Joseph took from Nazareth to Bethlehem.

Although December feels like the beginning of a long dark winter, it is actually the traditional month to celebrate the return of the light during the Solstice. In 2017 the shortest day of the year is the Winter Solstice on December 21. After December 21 the days will slowly add more light. The Solstice is celebrated with what became the Christmas tree, gift giving and feasts.

Christmas, on December 25, is the celebration of the birth of Jesus.

Kwanzaa is an African-American celebration from December 26 to January 1. The tradition is to celebrate the seven principles of self-determination; purpose; creativity; unity; communal work and responsibility; supportive economics; and faith. Kwanzaa focuses on an appreciation of the African-American heritage and the importance of family.