Healing a Relationship – Ritual Letter to the Higher Self

Below is an exercise that is useful for making changes in the dynamics of any relationship. It’s best to do when a person is alive, but it’s also helpful when the person has passed.

Call on your guides and angels to help you write a letter to the high self of the person with whom you have, or had, a challenging relationship. This is a physical letter but you are writing it through your, and to the other’s, spirit. In this letter explain to the person the lessons you learned from her, even if you rejected the lessons or they were hurtful. For example, if she has been spiteful and jealous you can tell her that she did an excellent job of teaching you how a person is when they are expressing jealousy and spite. You’ve gotten and understood the lesson and now she doesn’t have to keep teaching you those lessons any longer. Explain in the letter that through her guides you would like to teach her to replace jealousy and spite with, for example, compassion and tolerance.

In your letter include the good, the bad and everything in between regarding your relationship. Explain that you are done with what you don’t like about who she is, or has been, in your life. Then explain that you want to replace the negative energy in your relationship with positive energy.

Next, honor and thank her for the positive lessons she has brought to your life. Be willing to forgive her past actions because she was most likely teaching you in the only way she knew.

At the end of the letter tell her high self what you would like to see your relationship become in whatever time you have left on this plane. In your letter, thank her even for the difficult lessons she has taught you.

When you are sure you are done with the letter burn it with the sacred intention of changing the energy. Say something along the lines of, “As this paper is transformed to ashes, I call on my high self and [person’s] high self to transform the energy in our relationship to its highest potential”. Finally, blow the ashes into the wind or plant them in a garden.