Below is an exercise that is useful for making changes in your relationship (see example above). This exercise is useful in changing the dynamics of any relationship. The results are most obvious when a person is alive, but it’s also helpful to resolve old hurts and inequities when the person has passed.
Call on your guides and angels to help you write a letter to the higher self of the person with whom you have a challenging relationship. This is a physical letter, but you are writing it through your higher self, and to this person’s higher self. The other person will not physically receive the letter.
In the letter explain the challenging lessons you learned from this relationship, even if you rejected the lessons or the lessons were hurtful. For example, if the person has been spiteful and jealous, you can point out that they did an excellent job of teaching you how a person is when they are expressing jealousy and spite. You got the lesson, and now it’s not necessary to keep teaching (showing) you this behavior any longer. Explain in the letter that through both of your guides you would like this person to learn to replace jealousy and spite with, for example, compassion and tolerance.
In your letter include the good, the bad, and everything in between regardingyour relationship. Explain the nature of the positive energy that you would like to replace the negative. Also, honor and thank this person for the positive lessons they have brought to your life. Be willing to forgive past actions because they were most likely teaching you in the only way they knew.
At the end of the letter, tell your person’s higher self what you would like to see your relationship become, in whatever time your paths will cross. In your letter, take responsibility for however you may have contributed to the difficulty in the relationship.
When you are sure you are done with the letter, burn it with the sacred intention of changing the energy in your relationship. Say something along the lines of, “As this paper is transformed to ashes, I call on my higher self and [person’s] higher self to transform the energy in our relationship to its highest potential.” Finally, blow the ashes into the wind or put them in a garden.
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