The energy around this time is change and renewal. We look at the plants budding and the flowers poking their heads out of the soil. Use the energy of this time to decide what you want to change in your life by following the steps below.
- Acknowledge the truth of your situation.
Are you happy with the way you spend your day and night? What are you doing that brings you the greatest joy and what are you doing that brings you the most distress? Acknowledge the truth of what is.
- Determine if the situation is salvageable if you change within it, or if you have to create something new and different.
Be honest with yourself and look at how your attitude is contributing to the situation. Are you sharing gossip with other people in the office who are unhappy and creating dissatisfaction? Are you arguing with your partner rather than listening? Are you approachable? Write down the things you can change about yourself that will contribute to greater satisfaction.
- Accept that others are as they are and you cannot change them, but you can change your reaction to them. Focusing on how you wish another would change is unproductive and will only add to your frustration. Try to see how you can change your environment. Listen to yourself and evaluate how you are responding to the situation. Try not to take criticism personally. Strategize with a non-involved friend about what you could do differently in the frustrating situation.
- Explore alternatives – don’t keep doing what doesn’t work and expect it to change. If the job or relationship doesn’t work it’s time to move on. Get your resume up to date and start networking to find out what’s out there. The longer you stay in a situation you don’t like the more discouraged you will become. If it’s your relationship that has to end, do it cleanly and completely. Going back and forth sends mixed messages and extends the pain for both of you.
- Embrace yourself – believe that you deserve the best. Change can be difficult and demoralizing, so be gentle with yourself. Find allies to help you. Be willing to get professional legal or emotional help. You become empowered when you take the first step to help yourself improve. Change takes time. You evolved over a period of time and changes will take time as well.
You are welcome to contact me for life coaching support through your changes.
