4 Empowerment Steps to Create Possibilities

1. Set intentions – Make a list of the areas in your life that you want to create new and/or expanded possibilities. Be specific without getting bogged down. Your life is integrated between the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. When you want to spend more energy in one area, realize that you may need to shift some energy from another area.

2. Evaluate options – As you review your intentions, evaluate what you will need to accomplish each intention. Do they require an investment of time, money, commitment or space? Decide from among the various approaches that you may take to create your intention. There is almost always more than one action you can take to achieve your intention.

3. Take action – Now that you know what you want to achieve, and the best steps to take for success, really commit yourself to your goals. The purpose of setting your intention is to make your life better and this is your opportunity to claim a more expansive life. GO FOR IT!

4. Pay attention – Keep your list of intentions and actions where you see them and pay attention to how well you are completing your actions and staying with your intention. Pay attention to where you stumble and celebrate your successes.

When you feel stuck, pull a card to see what energy is in your way, and then another card to determine what energy to call upon to get past your challenge.

You can always call on me if you have a question.

A New Year Ritual

Rituals shift our state of mind through structured symbolic acts. Carl Jung said that symbols are the language of the soul as they connect to the intuitive rather than the rational mind. The purpose of empowerment rituals is to connect with what is in our highest and best good. As we perform rituals to manifest a job, romance, or a new home we are calling on our super conscious to bring the cosmic energy into alignment to create our desire.

I’ve been told that the first twelve days of a new year are the most important to pay attention to what we want to manifest for the new year. Pay attention to how you answer the questions below, revisit and update them during the twelve days. Clean out your drawers and closets, getting rid of the old.

What brought you joy in 2017?
What lessons did you learn in 2017?
Where did you experience grief during 2017?
What do you want to release from the old year?
Who do you want to help this year?
How do you want to play in 2018?
Where do you want to experience growth in 2018?
What do you want to manifest in 2018?
How will you affirm you are worthy of what you want to manifest?

Burn what you want to release and keep your hopes for the future. Happy New Year!

Is This Energy Yours, Or Does It Belong To Someone Else?

An empath is a person who is highly sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people or events. Empaths often feel overwhelmed when they are in crowded situations such as a mall or stadium because they may unknowingly pick up the conflicting energy of many people at the same time.  Sometimes an empath will feel sad or upset before a major event, such as a natural disaster, that may not even involve them or anyone they directly know.

Being an empath can be exhausting, especially if you don’t know that you are picking up on feelings that are not your own. Empaths may become depressed because they can’t seem to control their feelings or they don’t understand why they are suddenly angry or overwhelmed. Empaths can’t choose what they will pick up on and sometimes they will experience panic attacks or high levels of anxiety.

If you are an empath, the best thing you can do is to acknowledge this gift, and be gentle with yourself. More than most people, you will benefit from having strong boundaries and controlling your environment by deciding what visual (movies, media) and auditory stimulation you want to expose yourself to.

When you feel that you are losing yourself in another person’s issues learn the habit of releasing their energy. Release the unwanted energy by imagining  you’re are cleansing it from the top of your head and running it down your body from your feet into the earth. You may feel most people’s pain, but your life purpose is not to take on their pain. Instead, try to find a sanctuary where you can reconnect with your own energy.

Below are some resources you might want to read to understand yourself, or an empath you may know:
An Empath’s Guide to Staying Balanced:
The Happy Sensitive:
The Joys and Sorrows of Being an Empath

Are You Worth it?

Don’t be too quick to claim the stories that you believe about your life, they can easily become blocks to creating the future you want for yourself. The stories often justify actions and support your dis-empowerment. In these times of transformation, think about your stories and re-write them to empower yourself. The point of power is now, and now you can create a story-foundation that will support the new, empowered you.
– Karen Crane: Wisdom Work for Women

Karen’s words are so true. People often say things that lead to us feeling unworthy to accept love, money, success or joy, yet we adopt them as our story. It’s not possible to be empowered when we don’t feel worthy to claim what life has to offer.

Empowerment is about disengaging from the stories that create low self-esteem and to accept that it is our right to claim all of the majesty of life. To become empowered we need to take responsibility for our lives rather than passively accepting what comes our way. We can’t always control what life brings, but we can learn to respond from different perspectives.

You are worthy. You are worth the best that life has to offer.

Believing negative stories that others tell us about ourselves allows their perception to influence how we are in the world. Learning to reinterpret our own story from a new perspective gives us the freedom to respond in a way that we would like to become.

Over the years I’ve learned to listen to different stories from people who love and support me and now I can accept that I am more the empowered, positive person I want to be. Don’t listen to the people who don’t love you.  Listen to the people who do care.

We often don’t recognize where in our life we feel unworthy. Below is an exercise to help you identify where you lack self-esteem and how to connect with empowering changes.

Do the work. You are worth it!

1.     Pick an area in your life where you experience a lack of fulfillment or joy. Now, write down the feeling or beliefs you have about this part of your life. For example:

I feel unattractive, therefore I don’t deserve someone to love me.

I don’t have money because only selfish people have money.

I can’t improve my work (school, home) situation because this is the best I can do.

2.      Look at each of those points and identify the story behind these feelings. For example,

I was teased about my looks many years ago.

My parents were poor and were jealous of those who had money.

I was encouraged to make decisions to benefit others rather than myself.

3.      Make a list of where and from whom, you heard these stories. Acknowledge the beliefs had a hold on you and release them into the universe by burning the paper. Burning transforms the energy.

4.      Now, decide how you want to rewrite your beliefs and make a list of what beliefs you WANT to be true about yourself. Acknowledge and embrace those beliefs. Put this list in a safe place and periodically review what you have written.

5.      Finally, practice your new beliefs about yourself.

Get out of the habit of believing the negative and embrace who you want to become. Call in the energy to support your new beliefs. Every time you catch yourself reacting in the old paradigm again, release the old and firmly replace it with the new paradigm.

You are worth it. Let me know how this works for you.

More Wisdom Works for Women can be seen on facebook at Karen D Crane or she can be reached at KCsoul53 [at] yahoo.com

Ritual for Balance

Periodically it’s time to look at the roles we have taken on in our lives. In readings, the Temperance card will often come up during those times. It is about acknowledging, honoring and balancing all aspects of who you are. This is an exercise for you to consciously explore which parts of you that may be out of balance.

Write down all of the roles you play in your life, for example, friend, son or daughter, student, employer and so forth. The roles you play are not inherently good or bad. However, the way you think about them may be in a negative or positive light.

Once you have identified all aspects of yourself, write a 1 to 3 word positive description about that role. For example, friend might have the words laughter, playfulness. The areas where you have a difficult time coming up with a positive description are probably where you need to bring balance into your life.

Draw a pie chart and divide it proportionate to the attention you currently give each role of yourself. Note if a relationship, work, or whatever, has absorbed a disproportionate piece of the pie.

Explore what roles you would like to add to your life, and what words you would use to describe that energy.

Happy exploring!

Grumpiness is Not Empowerment

I’ve been a bit snarky to my wonderful husband lately. Could be I’m over extended, or maybe it’s about adjusting to more together time now that he has just completed his first year as a retired person. In any case, I need to remind myself that, whatever is going on with me, I do not have permission to be less than kind to those around me, especially my supportive, caring mate.

To truly be empowered, we need to be able to express our emotions in a way that is honest and honors the other person. Be truthful about what you want to say, and then say it in a way that invites discussion. Look at the motivations behind the language and tone of voice you are using, and then imagine you are the recipient of the conversation.

When you imagine you are the one listening, how does it feel? If it feels good and clean, then it’s probably empowered communication.

What Is Empowerment?

Empowerment is the ability to make choices and take actions based on those choices while understanding the consequences of those actions.

Have clarity of purpose

Make decisions

Take responsibility for your actions

What empowerment is NOT

Power over others

Excuses

Blame

How to become empowered

Make goals

Investigate options

Expand your awareness

5 Things to Do to Re-energize Your Life

Making conscious, intentional decisions about those things you can change in your life will lead you to a more dynamic present life.

1. Pay attention to how and with whom you are spending your time and energy. You don’t have to answer every text or call from people who drain you. Decide if you are responding to “should” rather than what you want to do. You may not be able to eliminate everything that’s not fun, but by paying attention you will become aware of how many pleasant and exciting things you are doing in your life. Pay attention!

2. Set your intention around what you want in your life and then allow the change that will make the intention a reality. That’s right; you need to change if you want things to be different. Do you want more fun, better health, or healthier relationships? If so, you need to set your intention and figure out how to make that intention become a reality.

3. Live creatively. Creativity opens new horizons, provides new insights and stimulates your senses. Creativity is doing things in a new way, be it cooking, art, music, business, problem solving, relationships or whatever. Children are creative because they figure out how to do things without knowing the rules. Let the child in you take over and forget the rules. Try breaking at least 1 rule a day for a week and see how free you become.

4. Expect and accept the unexpected. When you change the rules, pay attention, and make changes to create your intention, you can expect that things will be different in your world. New opportunities will become available. New people will appear in your life. New gifts will be given and received.

5. Say YES more often and be courageous enough to say NO. Huh? Learn to say yes to things that are fun and new. Learn to say yes to risk (a little risk to one person can be a big risk to another). Learn to say yes to gifts from other people. Have the courage to say no to obligations that don’t feed your soul or when your boundaries are intruded upon. When your idea of a good time is staying home and reading a book you don’t have to go out to prove you are a good sport.

Spring Soul Cleansing Ritual

This ritual takes as long as it takes. It isn’t a race, nor do you get extra credit for taking all day. You will know when you are complete with the exercise. Stay with it until you feel that sense of completion.

The intent of the ritual is to clear out the old which may be keeping your from reaching your highest potential. However, nature abhors a vacuum and it is best for you to fill the space you just created by calling in what you want to replace the old.

Decide on a time and place where you will not be disturbed for however long it might take you to finish the ritual. Clear the space of unnecessary and unwanted energy by smudging or sprinkling salt and water with the intent that the space has clean energy and is a protected place for you to go into a conversation with your guides without unwanted entities entering into the conversation.

Lie down, or sit in a comfortable place. Use music if it is helpful. Call on your angels and guides to support you, and guide you, in releasing that which may be in the way of achieving your highest good.

Try to stay open and clear. Allow the images or words to come into your awareness. Stay with the images as long as you wish and simply state, “I release you.”

Next, call on the angels and guides to bring into your awareness that which is in your highest good to replace what you just released.

Take as long as it takes for you to be complete. You will know if you listen.

When I did this ritual recently I realized that fear and self-imposed limitations were in the way of me reaching my highest good.  Now, mind you, I don’t go around afraid every day, but as these words came to me from my guides many images came up.

Writing has always been difficult for me because I’m dyslexic and learned to read and write later than my peers. I realized that the way I integrated dyslexia was a self-limitation and that I have grown beyond the limitations of the condition.

My decision is to replace the limitations I set for myself by embracing my writing abilities and trusting that I will find the newsletter, website text and handouts easier to create.

As I floated in a vague state of letting my angels and guides speak to me more information came through to help me reach my highest potential. As a result of the ritual I know what I’m releasing and what I’m calling in to fill in the space. My soul feels sparkly and clean.

Let me know how this works for you.

Tarot and Empowerment

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the earliest use of the term empowerment was used in 1648 as a legal term to bestow power and authority to a person, government or institution. In other words, the power was given to another.

An issue that sometimes arises with the word “empowerment” is that it contains the word “power”. Power often implies domination and control in a relationship of any kind, or in the social or political arena. In such relationships it’s difficult to take control and create change. When one is empowered, she holds the ability to take control over her own life and make decisions that can change her life.

In recent times the term empowerment has been so overused that it’s become almost a cliché and has lost meaning for a lot of people. Businesses, political and social organizations often make false promises about how employees or community members can become empowered to make their own decisions, only to snatch the power away with rules and hierarchical decision-making.

The Journal of Extension from Connecticut University People Empowering People defines empowerment as a multi-dimensional social process that helps people gain control over their own lives. It is a process that fosters power in people for use in their own lives, their communities and in their society, by acting on issues they define as important.

An article about empowerment by Judi Chamberlin of the National Empowerment Center identified the key elements of empowerment including access to information, ability to make choices, the ability to assert changes and the self-esteem, or self-worth to make it all happen.

How does Tarot relate to empowerment? The cards are a tool to help access information and new perspectives. Information from the cards reveal choices that are open to you and can identify the consequences of making those choices. A reading can reveal the energy you call to yourself according to the choices you make. The information and lessons from the cards can also help the querent work towards self-worth as she becomes accustomed to embracing her own power.

The cards themselves do not empower an individual, rather, it’s the willingness to explore the options, assess the information and take action.

Make sure that when you ask a question for the cards that you frame the question in a way that leads to empowerment. I like to ask questions that include a card for a best course of action, how to do the best course of action and what is most likely to get in the way of completing the best course of action.

If you asked a question and the Justice card came up in the spread in the place of the best course of action, it would indicate that you would be best served by looking at all aspects of the question and consider the consequences. Justice suggests using both your rational and intuitive abilities when considering the action.

If the Hanged One came up in the reading as the best course of action you would do well to get a different perspective about the issue.