If You Had One Month to Live

How would your life change if you had only one month to live with your current health and finances? Would it change? What might you find important, and who would you reach out to?

Most of us move through much of our lives automatically, going through our daily routines, occasionally thinking about people we would like to reach out to or places we’d like to visit but don’t take the time “now.” We often put off the phone call to a friend, delay going to a fancy restaurant as we wait for a special occasion, or postpone forgiving a misdeed.

Take a while to think about how you are spending your time now and how you think your priorities would be the same or different if you had only 30 days to live. This is not a morbid exercise; rather, it’s an opportunity to reflect on and be conscious of your current priorities.

Who would you want to talk to?

What have you left unsaid in your life that you would like someone to know?

What would you keep doing, and what would you leave behind?

What risks might you take that you wouldn’t take now?

Would you want to leave a legacy, and if so, what would you want it to be?

No one knows how long they will live. Look at your list and think about reaching out to make contact or do at least one of the things on your list.

Please feel free to share your thoughts with me.

Apply the Magic

Last month’s exercise was to identify the positive aspects about who you are. This month the exercise is to learn to reinforce the qualities you identified last month that benefit you. If you missed it, click here.

Remember how we talked about creating the magic? Well, this is the work of magic. Set your intentions, follow these instructions and the magic will come into your life. Really!

1. Review your positive traits from the exercise, and make a commitment to take action that expands on those traits.

2. Start your day by stating what you are grateful for in your life – even if it’s just waking up!

3. Call on your angels and guides (or whatever you call the magical force) and ask for support today. Bring them onto your team by sharing your intentions for the day.

4. Review your self-talk. Are you falling into old habits where you say things like, “I’m no good at . . .” or “I can’t keep a job” or “I’m not good enough to . . .”

    When you catch yourself in negative talk, immediately change the conversation. Use phrases that rewrite your story to something like, “I’m learning new skills,” or “I’m paying attention and am doing the best job I can” or “It’s a process and I’m doing my part.”

5. Surround yourself with positive people. As you become more positive, you will find you attract others who are also positive.

6. Treat yourself to something fun to bring joy into your life. Engaging in joy opens your chakras and is healthy self-care.

You may find it’s helpful to ask a friend to do these exercises with you. That way you can each reinforce the positive and bring joy to both of your lives.

It’s Time for Self-Care

With everything that’s going on in the world, there is little doubt that most, if not all, of us are in desperate need of self-care. We so often put off the nurturing for ourselves as we deal with the stress and anxiety in our families and in the world at large.

Self-care is about acknowledging the stress in your life and then taking action to reduce that stress with the intention of finding balance.

Exercise: Fold a paper into four equal quadrants. Title each quadrant with one of the following words: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual.

Under each of the above titles, list what attention, negative or positive, each of these areas has received in the last week. Look at the balance between these areas. Where do you need to relieve tension? Is there an area you have neglected?

Below are suggestions you might take to bring balance to your life. Remember, in order to take care of others, you must first take care of yourself.

    1. Take a break from social media.

    2. It’s not the time to go to a spa but give yourself a spa day at home by indulging in a bath with special oils or scents. Take the time for a     manicure and pedicure.

    3. Be firm with your boundaries with others. Turn off your phone for a specific time if you need to.

    4. Turn off the news or limit your exposure if you think you would feel more stressed not knowing what’s going on in the world.

    5. Reach out to someone who loves and supports you by phone or zoom and share a drink or a meal together while apart.

    6. Tell yourself every morning and every night that you are a good person.

Embrace Your Own Story

One of the most familiar phrases I hear as a coach is, ”I was always told . . .” or “made to believe . . .” [fill in the blank]. And that remembered conversation or belief is almost always negative and disempowering.

When we believe the critical voices from the past we are making a choice to limit ourselves. Our memories are in the past, we are now living in the present, and we’re making decisions that affect our future.

When you were a child, your circumstances and care givers were the authors of your story. You weren’t in a position to negate their claims about you or the world. And they were often passing along their wounds from childhood and what had been told to them.

If you are still responding to those messages from the past, I invite you to change your story. The exercises here are for those of you who want to create a true present to prepare for the future you want to create.

1. Write down only your positive traits or accomplishments. Only the positive. For example, maybe you are a kind person, or you were the first in your family to finish high school, or you successfully got yourself out of a difficult relationship. Write those down.

2. Ask a trusted friend to help you with the list. Embrace that this is who you are in the present. Only the positive traits and accomplishments.

3. Write a story about how those positive traits and accomplishments will play in your future.

4. When the negative screams that you are less than, write down that trait and then burn it. It is no longer you.

It’s up to us if we chose to limit ourselves or, alternatively, to embrace our best self and acknowledge that we’ve come a long way from the negativity of the past.

Sometimes it’s helpful to enlist a coach to assist in making changes. I’m here to help.

Self-care for March

March can be a turbulent month, weatherwise. You might find the spring storms reflected in your feelings and relationships. Calm one minute and stormy the next.

This is a good time to exfoliate your skin and attitudes or conflicts that create upheaval in your life. Look at your relationship with those around you and where there is conflict draw a card and ask yourself, “what is in my highest and best good to call into my life to have harmony in my life,” (you can draw a Tarot of Empowerment card here). Reflect on how the card can bring harmony to you.

Now, draw a card asking, “How is the next action for me to take that is in my highest and best good to work with the card above.”

Finally, draw a card that asks, “What is my challenge to being able to take the action for my highest and best good.”

This reading becomes a map that you can use in your daily life to explore changes that will bring you joy.

Judyth Sult Tarot Strength Card

In 2021 March is the 8th month. (March is the 3rd month which is added to 5, the total of 2021.)

In Tarot 8 resonates with Strength.

Grace is your strength

Be gentle as you tame the wild beasts

Use compassion and healing powers for all

Draw on the strength of your naked truth

Be strong

Part 8 – Healing of the Chakras – The Crown (7th) Chakra

The Crown Chakra is at the top of the head and, when it is open, is the opening to communication with your spirits and guides. When the 7th Chakra is open you feel a connection to humanity and creativity. When this Chakra is open you feel in the flow of life and in harmony with those around you.

When your Crown Chakra is blocked you are likely to feel aimless or disconnected from the world. You may have tension headaches or have trouble getting restful sleep. You are likely to lack creativity and a sense of purpose.

Ritual: This is the exercise I use at the beginning of my Reiki healings to prepare my client to open and clear the Chakras. As the light moves through your Chakras it picks up any negative or outdated emotions and feelings.

Sit quietly where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and imagine a purple light coming from the sky into the 7th Chakra opening at the top of your head.

Follow the light as it moves through your head, behind your Third Eye and then flows into your throat at the 5th Chakra, giving you the courage to speak your truth.

The purple light continues down your body to your shoulders, arms and hands. At your chest, the purple light surrounds and soothes your Heart Chakra, giving you the strength to forgive and release negative thoughts about others. The light continues to your 3rd Chakra, reminding you that you have positive impact on the world.

The purple light moves to the 2nd Chakra that allows you to reconnect with family and reminds you that we all do the best we can do. Finally the purple light goes through your 1st Chakra, letting you know that you are safe. The purple light moves out of your body and into the earth, taking the residue left from cleaning each of the 7 Chakras.

Part 7 – Healing of the Chakras – The Third Eye (6th) Chakra

The 6th Chakra is often referred to as the Third Eye and it resides just above the eyebrows. This chakra is said to be the center of your intuition that lets you “see” from a higher consciousness.

Your Third Eye is open when you feel in the flow, where your life seems to come together in a pleasant productive way. Your intuition leads you and often gives you information that is in your highest and best good. When your 6th Chakra is open you are capable of receiving communication from your guides in the form of inner wisdom and understanding.

When your 6th Chakra is out of balance it can manifest as indecision if there is no clarity in the chakra. On the other hand, an out of balance Third Eye can also manifest as spaciness and an inability to ground in the world.

To bring this chakra into balance try meditation, receive Reiki, or go for a walk in nature. Talk to your guides and tell them what you want at this stage of your life and tell themhow they can help you.

Part 6 – Healing of the Chakras – The Throat (5th) Chakra

The fifth Chakra is located at the throat and when this Chakra is open you communicate clearly and with confidence. The throat Chakra connects the lower four Chakras to the spiritual sixth and seventh Chakras.

Collectively, the first four Chakras have to do with emotions and the fifth Chakra is how you express your emotions. A blocked 5th Chakra manifests as difficulty in expressing thoughts, anxiety, excessive chattering or insecurity. A blocked 5th Chakra can also manifest as physical symptoms such as frequent sore throats, jaw or neck issues, hearing problems or dental issues.

Ritual: To heal your 5th Chakra, sit quietly and put your attention individually on each of the first four Chakras. Determine where there might be blocks and ascertain how those blocks relate to how you communicate. The 5th Chakra is associated with the color blue, so wearing a blue scarf or necklace can be helpful. Imagine a blue light coming through your crown Chakra and flowing throughout your body. See where the light seems to fade or become distorted. Send healing energy and love to that area (reiki can also help to align and clear the Chakras).

Heart Chakra Ritual

When the Heart Chakra is balanced it is open and receptive. When this chakra is closed down it feels jealous, saddened and alone.

The concerns of this chakra are with relationships to others, and within yourself. When the Heart Chakra is balanced you find relationships that empower you and are balanced and loving, generous and forgiving. You are able to give generously without feeling that others take advantage of you.

When the fourth chakra is out of balance you feel jealous, envious or unforgiving. When you are in grief you are likely to feel that your heart is breaking. It’s very difficult to see a future when the heart feels broken because the pieces are scattered and some pieces may be missing

During this pandemic many of you may feel the grief of loss. Many of us know the loss of life of a loved one. For others it is the loss of community and social connections. Please let me know if I can support you.

Ritual:

During this time of the pandemic, civil unrest and political drama, it’s important to heal and nurture your relationship to yourself. We are often not taught to honor ourselves and recognize our true value. Make a list of what you like most about yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror or at a picture of yourself. Pretend that you are your own best friend and tell that friend what you love about her.

Set your watch or phone to a time that repeats every day. Stand straight, push your shoulders back and open your chakras. Take a moment to remind yourself that you are a good person and that you do deserve your desires. Become your own best friend.

Shower Forgiveness Ritual

Many of you have used my forgiveness bath ritual. I’ve been asked, what if I just have a shower? So here is a ritual if you only have a shower.

First, let me explain that the magical outcome of any ritual is determined by your intention. When your intention is to forgive someone the ritual is “set up for forgiveness.” Your actions reinforce your intention to forgive

I’ll give an abbreviated review of the bath ritual. For a full description of the bath forgiveness ritual click here.

The purpose of this ritual is to release the energy that is getting in the way for you moving forward with joy in your life. You are forgiving in order to disconnect from the anger, abuse or hurt that has been imposed on you.

The intention of forgiveness is for you to get closure from the energy that goes to maintaining your feelings of hurt or anger. You may need to repeatedly forgive before the closure is permanent.

Be sure you can complete this exercise without interruption. Allow time for the ritual and a nap afterwards

Call on your angels and guides to be with you during this exercise with the intention of opening your heart and mind to their healing powers

Use only the light of a candle during your ritual.You’ll need a tool that simulates cutting attachments like a butter knife or dull, flat rock.

Sit at the bottom of the shower, turn on the water to a comfortable heat and follow the instructions below:

Start at your feet or head and gently move the tool over your body, repeating the mantra, “I forgive and release.”

Continue over your entire body, going between your fingers and toes, while repeating your mantra. As you do this you are likely to get flashes of scenes in which you have been wronged, or other scenes in which you have wronged others. You will most likely see things long forgotten. Let the pictures pass like a slide show, without stopping to review or analyze. As each scene comes up forgive and release or surrender.

At this point in the exercise disconnect all attachments, even of those you love. Imagine the tool gently cutting and removing your attachments to others, living or dead, loved or disliked. Later in the ritual you will allow reattachments. Continue to use the cutting tool and repeat the mantra until you feel the exercise is complete and that you are not holding anything back.

Stay in the shower and empty the stall. You don’t want to track the psychic gunk from the shower into your house. Let that entire gunk go down the drain. Now, stand up, shower again, shampoo and scrub yourself clean from head to toe.

While still in the shower tell your angels and guides to allow the energy from only those who love and support you to reattach. Say something along the lines of, “Let those who love and support me attach to my being.” Feel the love and support pour over you.

Now, you can leave the shower. You will probably want a rest or nap so snuggle into someplace comfortable and cozy. Thank your angels and guides and allow yourself to feel, and possibly dream, their love.

When you are done resting you can journal about your experience. Know you are loved.