Actions of Empowerment

About twice a week I create a Facebook quote with suggestions for self-empowerment. Below is a summary of the posts from the last several weeks.

EMPOWERED NEW MOON (JUNE 5). Happy New Moon! Take time to look inside yourself and celebrate 3 things that are you. When you are going through transitions it’s good to acknowledge and own what is good that you want to keep and what to release. Everyone has at least 3 things that are good and worth keeping. What are yours?

CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Make a complete list of the changes you want to make and then prioritize that list. Select one change to make and create a second list that outlines steps you think you need to take to make that step come about. For example, if it’s financial security you want, then might want to make a detailed outline of your expenses and income.

You may not want to take these steps, but outline ALL of the options on paper. Then you say the words of power to manifest your intention. By saying the words of power you are creating the space for new thoughts and creativity to come into your life. Be open to the unexpected. Make the words of power your mantra and repeat them several times a day. You will see the changes.

USE THE FULL MOON. In June the full moon will occur on the Solstice and is expecially powerful. The full moon is the time to shine the light in the dark places of your life and release that which no longer serves you. If you made a list of what you want to create during the last new moon on June 5 bring out the list, review it, and burn it. Burning your list releases the energy to manifest your desires in the universe.

For those who did not make a list at the new moon, simply release any and all things that are holding your back from whatever you would like to call into your life (new job, healing, joy, relationship, prosperity or whatever). Be empowered to ask the Universe to manifest that which is in your highest and best good.

EMPOWER YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS. All too often we allow ourselves to be victim to the opinions of others, thereby giving away our power. When you concentrate on the criticism rather than the positive, you run the risk of becoming a victim. Understand that there are many options in every situation. When facing disapproval, review the critique to see if there is value in the other person’s perspective and acknowledge the useful part of what they have to say. If the information is not supportive or productive respond neutrally by saying, “I hear your perspective.” Then, mentally package the information up and send it on the wings of release from your life.

Refrain from engaging in gossip and being critical of the negative person. You can only change yourself, never another person. The more you think or talk about negativity the more power you give away. Whenever you think of her/him say, “release,” and imagine the words flying that energy away. Hold onto your power. You are not a victim.

GET PAST OLD STORIES. A big obstacle to self empowerment is getting past the old stories that you carry in your head that belittle your self-worth. I don’t know why we always hang so tightly to those conversations that makes us feel bad. Here is an exercise many of my clients have found useful:

For 3 days carry a notebook around and record those self conversations that attack your self-worth. For example, “I’m so dumb, I can’t do anything right,” “Ah, what an idiot I am,” “If I weren’t so [fat, lazy, worthless, etc] I would be happy.” You can put tick marks every time you repeat the comment, but do take note of each time the comment comes to mind. Now, see which comments you most frequently repeated and go back in your memory to identify who gave you that story.

Speak to that person’s high self, even if they have passed on, and tell them how those comments have impacted your life. Then explain that you are changing your story and that the old story is not true, and may have never been true, and that you are taking your power back. Repeat this with each of the phrases and with each person who made you feel less than adequate. Replace the negative with a positive message, “I am good at [organizing, singing, care-taking, etc.] and find joy in life.

Burn the paper with the negative words and say, “As this paper is transformed to ashes, so may I be transformed to an empowered, strong and graceful person.” After this ceremony you also need to change the habit of being a victim to the negative stories you believed for so long. When you catch yourself revisiting those negative messages say, “Release, you have no power over me, I am a good and empowered person.” You may need to do this several times a day in the beginning.

2 HOURS TO EMPOWERMENT. We are all responsible for our own lives. Sometimes we can’t control all of the circumstances, but we can practice controlling our reaction to the circumstances. You are empowered when you don’t allow circumstances to defeat your sense of who you are.

Allow yourself 10 to 30 minutes of grief, anger or sadness. Then give yourself 3 to 5 minutes to release the negative feeling. Then give yourself 30 to 60 minutes to think about and perhaps write about what you are going to do to take your power back. The circumstances might involve physical pain management, emotional angst, mental confusion, or spiritual crisis.

Whatever the cause, allow the feeling of loss, neutralize the pain, and get back your power! If you  need more help, ask the community here to assist you.

Using Moon Phases for Empowerment

Just as the moon affects the tides, so it will often affect our emotions (after all, we’re 90% water!). For at least the next month become aware of the phases of the moon and of your own energy patterns. I suggest you write the dates of these phases on your calendar as a reminder to pay attention.

For the next few days the moon will be in a waning (getting smaller) phase. This is the phase when the energy supports completing projects in order to make room for something new to come into your life. This phase is a great time to reflect about what you might want to release to change your life.

On May 6 is the new moon phase when the moon is dark. Plant seeds of your intention. It might be as simple as saying, “I am planting the seeds to empower myself to grow in a new way.” Write down what you intend to begin in the course of this month.

The moon waxes (gets larger) during the first quarter moon phase until May 13 when the moon appears as a half moon. Energy to get things done is pretty pronounced during this phase. You may find you have a greater sense of purpose which may involve a struggle to release old forms.

Even more pressure builds up to support the new during the second quarter until the full moon May 21. During the full moon emotions tend to run high, intuition feels stronger and creativity is heightened. The full moon is a wonderful time to manifest the change you want to bring into your life based on the work you did in the earlier phases. The energy of the full moon will be present a few days on either side of the actual full moon date.

The phase after the full moon is called the waning moon and represents the time to complete the details of the projects you started in the earlier phases of this cycle. The first quarter of the waning (thinning) moon is still a time for action and lasts about 7 days.

May 29 marks the last quarter moon phase and tends to be an introspective time. This is the time to figure out what seeds to plant in the next moon phase, which is June 5.

What empowerment is, and what it is not

Empowerment is being willing to look at your life and identify the changes you want to make

Empowerment is NOT looking at someone else’s life and identifying changes you want THEM to make.

Empowerment is being willing to push your boundaries by exploring new thoughts and actions.

Empowerment is NOT conforming to your current limits.

Empowerment is being willing to release people, situations, and ideas that are not in your highest good.

Empowerment is NOT holding on to what is not in your highest good.

Empowerment is having the courage to walk in the fog of the unknown until you have clarity.

Empowerment is NOT being paralyzed by fear of the unknown.

Empowerment is not for the weak of heart.

I invite you to engage on a journey to Empower yourself.

Personal Cleansing and Energy Release Ritual

http://www.remodelingcalculator.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Resin-Bathtub.jpgResin-Bathtub.jpgLight a candle and take a bath with scented water. Use a flat stone, butter knife or other implement to signify cutting loose all attachments. Start with the intention that you are releasing EVERYONE, knowing that at the end of the ritual those that love and support you will reattach.

Go over your body with the implement from head to toe while repeating, “I release all cords.” Be as thorough as possible. Any places you miss (like your back) will be okay because your guides understand your intention. The images of people and scenes may come up. Just let them pass like a slide show. Some scenes may be surprising or of people you have forgotten. Don’t stop to analyze, just let them all go.

Stay in the bathtub so that you don’t track the psychic “gunk” in your living space while you drain the water. Turn the shower on and wash yourself from head to toe. Invite healthy re-attachments by saying, “I invite only those who love and support me to re-attach to my heart and soul.”

Often people have told me that the water actually feels oily or dirty at the end of the bath and are very happy to take the shower. Expect to be tired at the end of the ritual. I suggest taking a nap rather than going to bed for the night so that you can remember information that comes to you as you sleep.

Once you have done this ritual it’s important to break the habit of giving energy to what you have released. Each time you think about or have a reminder about what was cleansed say, “release,” and brush the thought away. In the beginning you most likely will need to say this numerous times, but eventually you will cease to give energy to those negative thoughts and you will be truely cleansed.

Life Cycles – Release and rebirth

Language is so important. Subtle, or maybe not so subtle, language variations, such as the name of a card, can evoke very different responses during a reading. The Life Cycles card is most appropriate for spring time. This is the card that represents releasing the old that has keep a hold on you long past its usefulness. Grieve over that loss, and then accept that there will be renewal to fill the space left by the the release.

Whenever I read for someone I remind them that the Death card does not mean a physical death, yet, every time it comes up in a reading this card momentarily shuts down the person for whom I’m reading.

Even though the person KNOWS it’s not about a physical death, all sorts of images and fears go through their mind. Even after explaining the nature of the card, there is an echo of the word, “Death” that does not evoke empowerment and often interfers with the message.

The Life Cycle card, which replaces Death, in Tarot of Empowerment, evokes a very different reaction. The querent generally engages with the interpretation of the card. When this card comes up in my readings, I most often find the querent accepts that there is old baggage to release and grieve over in order to be able to move forward with dreams and aspirations that have been put on hold for too long. Generally, when Life Cycle comes up in a reading I suggest the person perform the ritual below and then pull another card for what to call in to replace what has been released.

My goal in reading Tarot is to eliminate the fear so that a person is empowered to discover new possibilities to reach their highest potential.

Life Cycle Ritual

Sometimes we get into a habit

We all have habits, some good, some not so good. Holding onto an old belief, relationship, feeling, or childhood message can serve to keep one from moving forward in a healthy way.

Sometimes people find themselves with a partner or a job that seemed like a perfect match, only to find that they’ve outgrown it. They may actually be in love with the potential they originally saw in the relationship rather than what it has actually become.

My heart hurts for people who come to me for a reading when the querent is more focused on getting back what was, rather than on accepting what is.

Take a symbol of what you need to release. It might be a photo, a remembrance, a business card or a word or phrase written on a paper – whatever symbolizes what you want to release. Bless it, then burn or bury it as a symbol or release.

5 Things to Do to Re-energize You Life

Making conscious, intentional decisions about those things you can change in your life will lead you to a more dynamic present life.

1. Pay attention to how and with whom you are spending your time and energy. You don’t have to answer every text or call from people who drain you. Decide if you are responding to “should” rather than what you want to do. You may not be able to eliminate everything that’s not fun, but by paying attention you will become aware of how many pleasant and exciting things you are doing in your life. Pay attention!

2. Set your intention around what you want in your life and then allow the change that will make the intention a reality. That’s right; you need to change if you want things to be different. Do you want more fun, better health, or healthier relationships? If so, you need to set your intention and figure out how to make that intention become a reality.

3. Live creatively. Creativity opens new horizons, provides new insights and stimulates your senses. Creativity is doing things in a new way, be it cooking, art, music, business, problem solving, relationships or whatever. Children are creative because they figure out how to do things without knowing the rules. Let the child in you take over and forget the rules. Try breaking at least 1 rule a day for a week and see how free you become.

4. Expect and accept the unexpected. When you change the rules, pay attention, and make changes to create your intention, you can expect that things will be different in your world. New opportunities will become available. New people will appear in your life. New gifts will be given and received.

5. Say YES more often and be courageous enough to say NO. Huh? Learn to say yes to things that are fun and new. Learn to say yes to risk (a little risk to one person can be a big risk to another). Learn to say yes to gifts from other people. Have the courage to say no to obligations that don’t feed your soul or when your boundaries are intruded upon. When your idea of a good time is staying home and reading a book you don’t have to go out to prove you are a good sport.

Spring Soul Cleansing Ritual

This ritual takes as long as it takes. It isn’t a race, nor do you get extra credit for taking all day. You will know when you are complete with the exercise. Stay with it until you feel that sense of completion.

The intent of the ritual is to clear out the old which may be keeping your from reaching your highest potential. However, nature abhors a vacuum and it is best for you to fill the space you just created by calling in what you want to replace the old.

Decide on a time and place where you will not be disturbed for however long it might take you to finish the ritual. Clear the space of unnecessary and unwanted energy by smudging or sprinkling salt and water with the intent that the space has clean energy and is a protected place for you to go into a conversation with your guides without unwanted entities entering into the conversation.

Lie down, or sit in a comfortable place. Use music if it is helpful. Call on your angels and guides to support you, and guide you, in releasing that which may be in the way of achieving your highest good.

Try to stay open and clear. Allow the images or words to come into your awareness. Stay with the images as long as you wish and simply state, “I release you.”

Next, call on the angels and guides to bring into your awareness that which is in your highest good to replace what you just released.

Take as long as it takes for you to be complete. You will know if you listen.

When I did this ritual recently I realized that fear and self-imposed limitations were in the way of me reaching my highest good.  Now, mind you, I don’t go around afraid every day, but as these words came to me from my guides many images came up.

Writing has always been difficult for me because I’m dyslexic and learned to read and write later than my peers. I realized that the way I integrated dyslexia was a self-limitation and that I have grown beyond the limitations of the condition.

My decision is to replace the limitations I set for myself by embracing my writing abilities and trusting that I will find the newsletter, website text and handouts easier to create.

As I floated in a vague state of letting my angels and guides speak to me more information came through to help me reach my highest potential. As a result of the ritual I know what I’m releasing and what I’m calling in to fill in the space. My soul feels sparkly and clean.

Let me know how this works for you.

Empowerment

My style of healing is to use my tools (Tarot, Reiki, ritual, counseling) to help empower you to embrace your own power. My goal is to reveal your options for your highest good and then to explain how you can explore those options.

Recently I’ve been called upon to address questions about staying in a relationship, how a gay can come out to her family, whether to terminate a pregnancy, how to deal with a hostile boss, the best course to bring out a new tarot deck.

There are times you may not want to hear the answer because the solution requires more courage than you think you have at this time. Making a major life change can be daunting. I have no judgment about your decision.

Once you have the information about what needs to be done, the question becomes how to take that action. If you aren’t ready to take action we look at the best way for you to be in the situation as it is.

Calling on angels and guides helps me to have the clarity for the true answer to come through clearly and with purpose. I ask that “my own opinion does not enter this reading in any way without so stating.” I say this so that I may absolutely distinguish between what the guides have to say rather than what I think is the correct answer. And there are definitely times that my guides and I differ in opinion!

When that happens I interpret what the cards say and then I explain the different conclusion my human opinion had about the situation. I think it’s helpful for the people I’m reading for to get that distinction between me the human, and the message from the high spirit guides. I defer to the information from the guides after ensuring I’ve interpreted the cards as they wish. I’ll also pull clarifying cards to better understand the consequences of following the actions recommended by the guides.

It is my belief that we all have angels, guides or whatever name you want to give that energy that surrounds you, that wants you to reach your highest potential. You do not have to read cards to find the connection to your guides, but it will benefit you to find your own way to learn to distinguish between the human mind and higher self. Once you learn to listen you will then start the lessons about how to accomplish the action the higher self suggests.

Like anyone, just because you have answers doesn’t mean you will take action, and that has to be okay for the moment. Life is continually unfolding. When action is required to change a situation you need to have the information, the how to, and the daring to take action. Taking correct action is what it means to be empowered.

How Fear Affects Manifesting

I have several someones in my life who are amazing at manifesting – when they are feeling happy. If they are depressed or feeling bad they are unable to manifest what they want.

In my readings I often pull a card that refers to the querent’s hopes and fears. Many times we hope to manifest an end, but don’t feel worthy of what we are hoping to manifest. Perhaps you want a loving relationship, but are afraid that you won’t find the relationship or that you are not worthy of receiving a wonderful, kind relationship.

What does one do when faced with that fear or a lack of self-worth?
•    Recognize that feeling of lack in yourself.
•    Begin to treat yourself as you would your very best friend.
•    Determine what you need to change in your life to become worthy. HINT: To become worthy is not to depend on the actions of others. If you are in a relationship that continually batters your self esteem, it is time to get out of that relationship.
•    Begin to make a plan to make a change in your life that will remind you that you are worthy.

•    Contact me, or another professional. to help you explore these questions and learn how to manifest what you want.

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