How Tarot Works as a Tool of Empowerment

Tarot readers have different styles and objectives. In books and the movies Tarot is often depicted as a fortune telling device that reveals what the future has in store for the person. My problem with that kind of reading is that the person’s fate is out of her hands.  This can lead to resignation rather than action.

An empowered reading begins with formulating the right question.  A fortune telling question might be, “When will I find my soul mate?” What if the cards say in 5 years, or never, or next week?

A more empowering question might be, “What action is in my highest good to attract my soul mate?” This question gives the person alternative choices of actions to take responsibility for her own life.  Cards for this reading might include a theme, the best course of action, the challenge to doing the best course, and how to meet the challenge.

An even better question might be phrased as, “How can I bring contentment or joy into my life?” I person who finds joy in his or her own life will be more likely to attract a mate, or at least lead a more joyful life.

The question, “Should I quit my job?” would better be phrased, “What energy do I call to myself if I stay with my job or leave my job?” The layout for this question indicates what happens if the person stays with the job in comparison to leaving the job.

Pull a significator indicating the general current theme about you and work. Then, pull 3 cards about the energy you draw to yourself if you quit, and 3 cards to stay. This reading is usually pretty revealing. This is one of the few cases when I don’t assign a more detailed meaning for the 3 cards under each option.

Remember, the question is always about you, not what you want other people to do. Rather than, “How can I get my friend to lose weight?”, the question might become, “How do I best support my friend regarding her weight?” In this question there is less judgment.

My goal is that the person coming for a reading can look at options not previously considered, or to get clarity about the choices under consideration. The information offers options that may have been missed, opportunities or challenges that may come up, and areas of strength to call upon. The information received serves to enhance the ability to make decisions, not to diminish free will. The cards indicate how things stand at present and what is likely to influence the situation.

If you send me your question I will help you formulate it in a way that empowers you to take action.

Is This Energy Yours, Or Does It Belong To Someone Else?

An empath is a person who is highly sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people or events. Empaths often feel overwhelmed when they are in crowded situations such as a mall or stadium because they may unknowingly pick up the conflicting energy of many people at the same time.  Sometimes an empath will feel sad or upset before a major event, such as a natural disaster, that may not even involve them or anyone they directly know.

Being an empath can be exhausting, especially if you don’t know that you are picking up on feelings that are not your own. Empaths may become depressed because they can’t seem to control their feelings or they don’t understand why they are suddenly angry or overwhelmed. Empaths can’t choose what they will pick up on and sometimes they will experience panic attacks or high levels of anxiety.

If you are an empath, the best thing you can do is to acknowledge this gift, and be gentle with yourself. More than most people, you will benefit from having strong boundaries and controlling your environment by deciding what visual (movies, media) and auditory stimulation you want to expose yourself to.

When you feel that you are losing yourself in another person’s issues learn the habit of releasing their energy. Release the unwanted energy by imagining  you’re are cleansing it from the top of your head and running it down your body from your feet into the earth. You may feel most people’s pain, but your life purpose is not to take on their pain. Instead, try to find a sanctuary where you can reconnect with your own energy.

Below are some resources you might want to read to understand yourself, or an empath you may know:
An Empath’s Guide to Staying Balanced:
The Happy Sensitive:
The Joys and Sorrows of Being an Empath

Are You Worth it?

Don’t be too quick to claim the stories that you believe about your life, they can easily become blocks to creating the future you want for yourself. The stories often justify actions and support your dis-empowerment. In these times of transformation, think about your stories and re-write them to empower yourself. The point of power is now, and now you can create a story-foundation that will support the new, empowered you.
– Karen Crane: Wisdom Work for Women

Karen’s words are so true. People often say things that lead to us feeling unworthy to accept love, money, success or joy, yet we adopt them as our story. It’s not possible to be empowered when we don’t feel worthy to claim what life has to offer.

Empowerment is about disengaging from the stories that create low self-esteem and to accept that it is our right to claim all of the majesty of life. To become empowered we need to take responsibility for our lives rather than passively accepting what comes our way. We can’t always control what life brings, but we can learn to respond from different perspectives.

You are worthy. You are worth the best that life has to offer.

Believing negative stories that others tell us about ourselves allows their perception to influence how we are in the world. Learning to reinterpret our own story from a new perspective gives us the freedom to respond in a way that we would like to become.

Over the years I’ve learned to listen to different stories from people who love and support me and now I can accept that I am more the empowered, positive person I want to be. Don’t listen to the people who don’t love you.  Listen to the people who do care.

We often don’t recognize where in our life we feel unworthy. Below is an exercise to help you identify where you lack self-esteem and how to connect with empowering changes.

Do the work. You are worth it!

1.     Pick an area in your life where you experience a lack of fulfillment or joy. Now, write down the feeling or beliefs you have about this part of your life. For example:

I feel unattractive, therefore I don’t deserve someone to love me.

I don’t have money because only selfish people have money.

I can’t improve my work (school, home) situation because this is the best I can do.

2.      Look at each of those points and identify the story behind these feelings. For example,

I was teased about my looks many years ago.

My parents were poor and were jealous of those who had money.

I was encouraged to make decisions to benefit others rather than myself.

3.      Make a list of where and from whom, you heard these stories. Acknowledge the beliefs had a hold on you and release them into the universe by burning the paper. Burning transforms the energy.

4.      Now, decide how you want to rewrite your beliefs and make a list of what beliefs you WANT to be true about yourself. Acknowledge and embrace those beliefs. Put this list in a safe place and periodically review what you have written.

5.      Finally, practice your new beliefs about yourself.

Get out of the habit of believing the negative and embrace who you want to become. Call in the energy to support your new beliefs. Every time you catch yourself reacting in the old paradigm again, release the old and firmly replace it with the new paradigm.

You are worth it. Let me know how this works for you.

More Wisdom Works for Women can be seen on facebook at Karen D Crane or she can be reached at KCsoul53 [at] yahoo.com

How Do I Support My Friend?

Here is a layout to answer the question, “How can I best support my friend during this challenging time?” Here are cards that I got in this sample reading.

Card 1 [What card describes the situation?] Chaos
Card 2 [What is my gift to give this person?] Determination
Card 3 [How do I give this gift?] Star
Card 4 [What do I NOT suggest to this person?] Advisor
Card 5 [What action may I suggest for him?] Temperance

The situation I did the reading for is certainly chaotic so this card is just right.

My gift to my friend, in this situation, is to help him focus and set out new goals based on the current situation.

The way to help my friend focus is by showing him the potential of who he is and what he is capable of achieving at the end of the chaos.

The cards tell me to NOT suggest he see a counselor at this time. He is still in the middle of emotional chaos and although counseling may seem appropriate, it is not right for him at this time.

What I can suggest to him is to wait until he finds his own equilibrium before getting more input from a counselor, which actually fits his circumstances perfectly.

This reading was different than what I thought I would do to help, and it gave me a different perspective and approach to the issue. I followed the suggestion in the reading which turned out to be very helpful for my friend.

Developing Intuition

The best way to develop intuition is to feel it, rather than analyze or read about it. Let me give you an exercise: Close your eyes and ask your guides/angels/personal beings for help. Acknowledge that you might not even know if they are there (if you aren’t sure they are there). Ask them to teach you how to connect with them, which will connect you to your intuition. Ask them to play with you. Relax and see if you feel their presence.

The next step is to pay attention. How many times has someone called and you said, “I was just thinking about you.” That was your intuition telling you that you were going to soon be connected to that person.

Ask for parking near where you are going and when the spot comes up, thank your angels. Practice this for a week and let me know how this goes.

Another thing. Pay attention to the little itty bitty voice in your head that says, “hmm don’t think that’s a good idea,” or “this may have further consequences down the road.” Every poor business decision I’ve made can be directly tracked back to ignoring the little voice.

Life Cycles Ritual

Sometimes we get into a habit

We all have habits, some good, some not so good. Holding onto an old belief, relationship, feeling, or childhood message can serve to keep one from moving forward in a healthy way.

Sometimes people find themselves with a partner or a job that seemed like a perfect match, only to find that they’ve outgrown it. They may actually be in love with the potential they originally saw in the relationship rather than what it has actually become.

My heart hurts for people who come to me for a reading when the querent is more focused on getting back what was, rather than on accepting what is.

Take a symbol of what you need to release. It might be a photo, a remembrance, a business card or a word or phrase written on a paper – whatever symbolizes what you want to release. Bless it, then burn or bury it as a symbol or release.

Then write what you want to fill the space you have just created in your heart and hold it there.

Habits don’t go away with a ritual. You will still feel the tug of the old. When you do, repeat the words, “I release you and call – – into my life.”

Life Cycles – Release and rebirth

Language is so important. Subtle, or maybe not so subtle, language variations, such as the name of a card, can evoke very different responses during a reading. The Life Cycles card is most appropriate for spring time. This is the card that represents releasing the old that has keep a hold on you long past its usefulness. Grieve over that loss, and then accept that there will be renewal to fill the space left by the the release.

Whenever I read for someone I remind them that the Death card does not mean a physical death, yet, every time it comes up in a reading this card momentarily shuts down the person for whom I’m reading.

Even though the person KNOWS it’s not about a physical death, all sorts of images and fears go through their mind. Even after explaining the nature of the card, there is an echo of the word, “Death” that does not evoke empowerment and often interfers with the message.

The Life Cycle card, which replaces Death, in Tarot of Empowerment, evokes a very different reaction. The querent generally engages with the interpretation of the card. When this card comes up in my readings, I most often find the querent accepts that there is old baggage to release and grieve over in order to be able to move forward with dreams and aspirations that have been put on hold for too long. Generally, when Life Cycle comes up in a reading I suggest the person perform the ritual below and then pull another card for what to call in to replace what has been released.

My goal in reading Tarot is to eliminate the fear so that a person is empowered to discover new possibilities to reach their highest potential.

Life Cycle Ritual

Sometimes we get into a habit

We all have habits, some good, some not so good. Holding onto an old belief, relationship, feeling, or childhood message can serve to keep one from moving forward in a healthy way.

Sometimes people find themselves with a partner or a job that seemed like a perfect match, only to find that they’ve outgrown it. They may actually be in love with the potential they originally saw in the relationship rather than what it has actually become.

My heart hurts for people who come to me for a reading when the querent is more focused on getting back what was, rather than on accepting what is.

Take a symbol of what you need to release. It might be a photo, a remembrance, a business card or a word or phrase written on a paper – whatever symbolizes what you want to release. Bless it, then burn or bury it as a symbol or release.

22 The Unknown

The Unknown is the card that comes up when the Universe is not ready to give you information or to answer your question. The Universe has not yet put all of the factors in place to respond to the situation. Patience is needed before any decision is made or action can be taken.

In Tarot of Empowerment, the nautilus representing the sacred geometry of the building block of the Universe creates the question mark symbolizing the unknown.

21 The World

The World Card - Tarot of Empowerment Deck

The World is the last card in the deck. The World card represents the culmination and completion of the lessons learned through the journey of the cards. [Read more…]

20 Awakening (Judgement)

The Awakening Card - Tarot of Empowerment Deck

Awakening (traditional Judgement) represents choosing to move beyond the past and ascend to higher life purpose. Awakening represents a shift in consciousness that releases old paradigms of consciousness and dogma that restrict or compromise the authentic self. [Read more…]