Tarot: How Do I Support My Friend?

Here is a layout to answer the question, “How can I best support my friend during this challenging time?” Here are cards that I got in this sample reading.

Card 1 [What card describes the situation?] Chaos
Card 2 [What is my gift to give this person?] Determination
Card 3 [How do I give this gift?] Star
Card 4 [What do I NOT suggest to this person?] Advisor
Card 5 [What action may I suggest for him?] Temperance

The situation I did the reading for is certainly chaotic so this card is just right.

My gift to my friend, in this situation, is to help him focus and set out new goals based on the current situation.

The way to help my friend focus is by showing him the potential of who he is and what he is capable of achieving at the end of the chaos.

The cards tell me to NOT suggest he see a counselor at this time. He is still in the middle of emotional chaos and although counseling may seem appropriate, it is not right for him at this time.

What I can suggest to him is to wait until he finds his own equilibrium before getting more input from a counselor, which actually fits his circumstances perfectly.

This reading was different than what I thought I would do to help, and it gave me a different perspective and approach to the issue. I followed the suggestion in the reading which turned out to be very helpful for my friend.

Why Use a Major Arcana Only Deck?

I’ve been reading Tarot for over 30 years using an assortment of 78 or 79 card Tarot decks. When Gordana Curgus and I created the Tarot of Empowerment Major Arcana deck I assumed I would read with it until we finished the Minor Arcana. However, since using this deck I have found that the readings are more powerful and straight-forward than any other Major/Minor deck I’ve used – and others have reported their readings are also right on every time.

Here’s how to do an empowered reading no matter if you’re an expert or a novice. For most readings, limit the number of cards to about seven.

1. Be clear about the information you want the cards to tell you. A question tells you the framework to which the cards are responding. Form a question that helps you create a plan of action. Knowing what to do is empowering.

2. Assign the purpose to each card in relation to the question. For example, the theme of the reading, the best course of action, the challenge, my true desires, etc.

3. Interpret each card in the context of your question and the purpose you have assigned to the card.

In a Major Arcana reading EVERY card is significant.

Ritual – Release 2020, Call in 2021

Especially after the kind of year we’ve had, it’s important to release the energy of 2020 before moving into the energy of 2021. I suggest investing in a journal to keep track of your intentions, the rituals, and your reflections as we move through the year.

Begin by calling in your angels or guides to connect to your high self. Hold the intention to feel complete with releasing the old from 2020, and making space for what is in your highest good to call in for 2021.

Sit quietly and reflect on 2020. Remember back to the beginning of the year. Allow yourself to meander through your memories of the year—the good and the not so good. After a period of reflection, write the answer to each question below in your journal.

  1. What are you most grateful for from 2020?
  2. What were your biggest challenges in 2020?
  3. What did you learn about yourself in 2020?
  4. What have you completed that you will release before going into 2021?
  5. What do you intend to manifest for yourself in 2021? Specify what you want in terms of physical well-being, emotional balance,mental development, and spiritual growth.

When you’ve completed exercise above, sit quietly and imagine your life as it will be when you achieve what you want to manifest in each area.

Fold a paper so that you have 4 rectangles. On one rectangle write a heading of physical, on the next emotional, on the third mental, and finally, in the fourth, spiritual. Under each heading write what you want to manifest for that category. Then write one thing you can do in the near future to move towards your goal.

Keep this paper and add to it during the month.

Manifesting Who You Want to Become

Ritual: Here is an exercise for you to do each day for 7 days to co- create with spirit to manifest the change YOU want, be it a promotion, a new relationship or a new place to live.

  1. Write down what you want to call into your life. Use descriptive words to paint a picture of what you will be in that new reality as a result of manifesting what you want. For example, if you want a new job write down the benefits the new job will bring to you: Balanced responsibility, improved income, solid co-workers and so forth.
  2. Every morning when you awaken read your list, then close your eyes and imagine watching the very best of your future self being that person. Look for your confident posture, feel your joy, appreciate you ability to manifest.
  3. Ask Spirit what one thing you can do today that will bring you closer to your goal. Now, do that one thing, don’t put it off.

Stick with this plan and do that one thing each day for a minimum of 7 days. You will begin to see the change.

Part 8 – Healing of the Chakras – The Crown (7th) Chakra

The Crown Chakra is at the top of the head and, when it is open, is the opening to communication with your spirits and guides. When the 7th Chakra is open you feel a connection to humanity and creativity. When this Chakra is open you feel in the flow of life and in harmony with those around you.

When your Crown Chakra is blocked you are likely to feel aimless or disconnected from the world. You may have tension headaches or have trouble getting restful sleep. You are likely to lack creativity and a sense of purpose.

Ritual: This is the exercise I use at the beginning of my Reiki healings to prepare my client to open and clear the Chakras. As the light moves through your Chakras it picks up any negative or outdated emotions and feelings.

Sit quietly where you will not be disturbed. Close your eyes and imagine a purple light coming from the sky into the 7th Chakra opening at the top of your head.

Follow the light as it moves through your head, behind your Third Eye and then flows into your throat at the 5th Chakra, giving you the courage to speak your truth.

The purple light continues down your body to your shoulders, arms and hands. At your chest, the purple light surrounds and soothes your Heart Chakra, giving you the strength to forgive and release negative thoughts about others. The light continues to your 3rd Chakra, reminding you that you have positive impact on the world.

The purple light moves to the 2nd Chakra that allows you to reconnect with family and reminds you that we all do the best we can do. Finally the purple light goes through your 1st Chakra, letting you know that you are safe. The purple light moves out of your body and into the earth, taking the residue left from cleaning each of the 7 Chakras.

Manifesting Who You Want to Become

Ritual: Here is an exercise for you to do each day for 7 days to co- create with spirit to manifest the change YOU want, be it a promotion, a new relationship or a new place to live.

  1. Write down what you want to call into your life. Use descriptive words to paint a picture of what you will be in that new reality as a result of manifesting what you want. For example, if you want a new job write down the benefits the new job will bring to you: Balanced responsibility, improved income, solid co-workers and so forth.
  2. Every morning when you awaken read your list, then close your eyes and imagine watching the very best of your future self being that person. Look for your confident posture, feel your joy, appreciate you ability to manifest.
  3. Ask Spirit what one thing you can do today that will bring you closer to your goal. Now, do that one thing, don’t put it off.

Stick with this plan and do that one thing each day for a minimum of 7 days. You will begin to see the change.

Part 7 – Healing of the Chakras – The Third Eye (6th) Chakra

The 6th Chakra is often referred to as the Third Eye and it resides just above the eyebrows. This chakra is said to be the center of your intuition that lets you “see” from a higher consciousness.

Your Third Eye is open when you feel in the flow, where your life seems to come together in a pleasant productive way. Your intuition leads you and often gives you information that is in your highest and best good. When your 6th Chakra is open you are capable of receiving communication from your guides in the form of inner wisdom and understanding.

When your 6th Chakra is out of balance it can manifest as indecision if there is no clarity in the chakra. On the other hand, an out of balance Third Eye can also manifest as spaciness and an inability to ground in the world.

To bring this chakra into balance try meditation, receive Reiki, or go for a walk in nature. Talk to your guides and tell them what you want at this stage of your life and tell themhow they can help you.

Part 6 – Healing of the Chakras – The Throat (5th) Chakra

The fifth Chakra is located at the throat and when this Chakra is open you communicate clearly and with confidence. The throat Chakra connects the lower four Chakras to the spiritual sixth and seventh Chakras.

Collectively, the first four Chakras have to do with emotions and the fifth Chakra is how you express your emotions. A blocked 5th Chakra manifests as difficulty in expressing thoughts, anxiety, excessive chattering or insecurity. A blocked 5th Chakra can also manifest as physical symptoms such as frequent sore throats, jaw or neck issues, hearing problems or dental issues.

Ritual: To heal your 5th Chakra, sit quietly and put your attention individually on each of the first four Chakras. Determine where there might be blocks and ascertain how those blocks relate to how you communicate. The 5th Chakra is associated with the color blue, so wearing a blue scarf or necklace can be helpful. Imagine a blue light coming through your crown Chakra and flowing throughout your body. See where the light seems to fade or become distorted. Send healing energy and love to that area (reiki can also help to align and clear the Chakras).

Heart Chakra Ritual

When the Heart Chakra is balanced it is open and receptive. When this chakra is closed down it feels jealous, saddened and alone.

The concerns of this chakra are with relationships to others, and within yourself. When the Heart Chakra is balanced you find relationships that empower you and are balanced and loving, generous and forgiving. You are able to give generously without feeling that others take advantage of you.

When the fourth chakra is out of balance you feel jealous, envious or unforgiving. When you are in grief you are likely to feel that your heart is breaking. It’s very difficult to see a future when the heart feels broken because the pieces are scattered and some pieces may be missing

During this pandemic many of you may feel the grief of loss. Many of us know the loss of life of a loved one. For others it is the loss of community and social connections. Please let me know if I can support you.

Ritual:

During this time of the pandemic, civil unrest and political drama, it’s important to heal and nurture your relationship to yourself. We are often not taught to honor ourselves and recognize our true value. Make a list of what you like most about yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror or at a picture of yourself. Pretend that you are your own best friend and tell that friend what you love about her.

Set your watch or phone to a time that repeats every day. Stand straight, push your shoulders back and open your chakras. Take a moment to remind yourself that you are a good person and that you do deserve your desires. Become your own best friend.

Shower Forgiveness Ritual

Many of you have used my forgiveness bath ritual. I’ve been asked, what if I just have a shower? So here is a ritual if you only have a shower.

First, let me explain that the magical outcome of any ritual is determined by your intention. When your intention is to forgive someone the ritual is “set up for forgiveness.” Your actions reinforce your intention to forgive

I’ll give an abbreviated review of the bath ritual. For a full description of the bath forgiveness ritual click here.

The purpose of this ritual is to release the energy that is getting in the way for you moving forward with joy in your life. You are forgiving in order to disconnect from the anger, abuse or hurt that has been imposed on you.

The intention of forgiveness is for you to get closure from the energy that goes to maintaining your feelings of hurt or anger. You may need to repeatedly forgive before the closure is permanent.

Be sure you can complete this exercise without interruption. Allow time for the ritual and a nap afterwards

Call on your angels and guides to be with you during this exercise with the intention of opening your heart and mind to their healing powers

Use only the light of a candle during your ritual.You’ll need a tool that simulates cutting attachments like a butter knife or dull, flat rock.

Sit at the bottom of the shower, turn on the water to a comfortable heat and follow the instructions below:

Start at your feet or head and gently move the tool over your body, repeating the mantra, “I forgive and release.”

Continue over your entire body, going between your fingers and toes, while repeating your mantra. As you do this you are likely to get flashes of scenes in which you have been wronged, or other scenes in which you have wronged others. You will most likely see things long forgotten. Let the pictures pass like a slide show, without stopping to review or analyze. As each scene comes up forgive and release or surrender.

At this point in the exercise disconnect all attachments, even of those you love. Imagine the tool gently cutting and removing your attachments to others, living or dead, loved or disliked. Later in the ritual you will allow reattachments. Continue to use the cutting tool and repeat the mantra until you feel the exercise is complete and that you are not holding anything back.

Stay in the shower and empty the stall. You don’t want to track the psychic gunk from the shower into your house. Let that entire gunk go down the drain. Now, stand up, shower again, shampoo and scrub yourself clean from head to toe.

While still in the shower tell your angels and guides to allow the energy from only those who love and support you to reattach. Say something along the lines of, “Let those who love and support me attach to my being.” Feel the love and support pour over you.

Now, you can leave the shower. You will probably want a rest or nap so snuggle into someplace comfortable and cozy. Thank your angels and guides and allow yourself to feel, and possibly dream, their love.

When you are done resting you can journal about your experience. Know you are loved.